"And in the end the love you take
                        is equal to the love you make."
                             ---Lennon/McCartney

                       
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Learning to Pay Attention

        There are many forms of Tantra out there. Here at 2angels.net we begin by speaking of the sacred.. As with everything else I do, you will find an eclectic mix from many different traditions in my work. (You must decide for yourself, moment by moment, what works for you. Please be honest with yourself. It's easy, just tell yourself the truth you already know.)

        I first sat za-zen (no sex :-) with folks from the Stephen Gaskin's tradition. I was 18. (You remember, Monday Night Class, out of California. Now at 'The Farm' out of Tennessee.) Very -be here now- kind of folks.

         If you are going to begin, learning Tantra, best to start with disciplined and honorable people, which they most definitely were. Since then I have studied and experienced  different forms of Tantra.. Thankfully and due to Gaskin's discipline, I didn't sleep with much of it.

(Just sitting za-zen with someone really lets them into places usually reserved for just you, ( ...and angels and gods, etc.) When you bring your body into that space you can't just have sex like you are accustomed to. Someone will get their 'feelings' hurt. (Gentle ladies :-))

         It is possible to have great sex and not be there, present, in the moment. It is impossible to 'do Tantra' at all,  if you cannot be totally present in each moment as it folds into the next. This can get pretty deep. So you need to pay attention to whom you do it with.

         Most folks today see Tantra and think sex. While it's true this energy begins in the first chakra-- there are many chakra levels beyond the 1st. You do not even need to touch, if you are working the energy correctly, to experience the ecstasy some only achieve with sex.

        When you do get all those chakra centers running without touching, (And you have way more than the big seven.) and together make a conscious decision to bring your bodies into this energy, there is absolutely nothing that compares!

Sincerely,

   faith 

Tantra 101

A.  The Agreements!

#1.  I agree to only create peace.

Here is how to make that agreement.

a. Sit facing your partner in a position you can hold for a fairly long time without moving.

A straight spine being preferred. Three feet apart. You want your eyes level with your partners'. If you do need to adjust your position do it slowly and without breaking eye contact.

b. Focus on your partners' eyes. See the star there? Focus on the depth next to the star and simply begin to pay attention.

You want your gaze to become waver-less! Eventually you will learn to focus both eyes on both of your partners' eyes, by looking at your partners' third eye.

c. Begin to regulate your breathing.

Goal: When you breathe out,  I will breathe in and vise versa. And we will not breathe faster than the energy is moving for us in that moment. Gentlemen need to defer to the Gentlewomen where speed is concerned. Sound familiar!

d. Ground yourself and clear your space.

I will be putting up a page on these techniques, soon. If you do not know how to do this, just relax and cut loose of all those negative thoughts for now. In fact, don't think!

e. When both you and your partner are clear, verbally make your agreements.

Allow your partner space to feel his moment to verbally make his agreement to you.

Note: To get to this point you need to allow at least one half hour for your energies to settle and begin to merge.

( Watch your partners' eyes carefully as they verbalize this agreement. If they are not being truthful, or are unsure,  you will see the waver. Gentlewomen be cautious, gentlemen can lie with a non-wavering gaze. You will feel the gaze become solid like a wall, if this is happening.)

Note: You will discover some people are afraid of this much intimacy. Their eyes won't settle, they squirm and have lots of things that come up, that interrupt.

suggestion: Stop. Agreements made in this manner are not reliable and you may not wish to open yourself to someone else's hidden agenda. You could always opt for some great sex.

Agreement Number Two

#2. I agree to allow you to see/feel/experience me 
--to the infinite ends of my being. 
Holding nothing separate and apart from us.

Here is how to make that agreement.

a. Focus on the third eye until you can see both eyes at the same time.

It helps here, to begin to feel with your eyes rather than looking out of you, with them. Think of your eyes as cat whiskers with a finger tip at the end. You can look at another person and feel the connection with your eye/ whisker/ finger.

b. Ignore any halos of light around your partners face.  Ignore any changing mudras, facial expressions, or even seeing your partner disappear only leaving her eyes.

I will go into great detail about these phenomena in later chapters. For now remember Siddhartha at the river watching all the faces of everything slowly pass by. He became enlightened when he realized it all was illusion. Be him! Breathe, focus, hold the gaze, fold into the next moment. The next face to float down the river....

c. When you are ready, verbalize the agreement to your partner. Then open open, to your greatest depth and breadth. Let your partner come on in and see/feel YOU!

Partners:  I do not need to remind you to be so slow and gentle when you go in for a look/feel with your eye-fingers! This really is a huge honor, and takes an enormous amount of trust, when someone is willing to become this intimate with you. You will understand, because it is your turn to make this agreement, next.

Agreement-makers: It helps to know that everyone has bags of garbage and piles of trash in them. Think of it like that, (Allow the bags to sit around inside of you, waiting to be taken out, they become small and insignificant.)  then your partner can see who you really are. The soul of you, which is beyond your body and experiences of this lifetime. You are creating peace... remember. Stop thinking! Focus on the feeling of being entered (JOINED) in this intimate way.


(If you are paying attention you will learn/experience enormous amounts of information about your partner in these moments, stop judging and simply feel. If it is right you both will get totally intoxicated and feel great! Look/Feel for matching pictures; These will reveal your reasons for being together! (Do you hit on something in them which brings up something in you? Don't project yourself on to your partner! Open 'back' into the depths of you, while staying connected with your partner, and explore that matching picture.)


note: If you and your partner have made it this far and the energy is golden and juicy, congratulate yourselves. Not many are as available and can achieve this type of union.

Relax, have fun! Anything you do after "becoming one" like this, is going to be wonderful! If you are unsure how to continue, stop "doing tantra", and just enjoy each other. Don't let anyone get Heavy, i.e. emotional, with all this wonderful juice you have just created together!

Recognize if a soft or sore spot has been touched in someone, agree to dealing with it at that moment, or not, but stay conscious, pay attention.

Gentlemen: You are going to feel as if you want something immediately. Do not allow your feelings to force you to overlook what your partner's emotions might be asking for!

You will not get what you want and you won't have as much fun as you might be having... if you stay awake. (You have heard the expression of being led around... Well... this type of normal male energy, in you, is why!)

You may believe you are above all that, just check to make sure there isn't some other type of pay-off you (un-consciously) want.

Gentlewomen:
Your tendency is to merge in your totality! (I will say this in my way ok? I don't have time to placate emotions. So no offense intended.) This is not your Daddy. This partner represents your god, and you are the goddess, equals in everywhere! You must rise to that energy level. (Otherwise, you will not be creating peace.)

You are going to feel as if your partner can heal everything! That is not your partner's job. You are the only one who can take out your own bags of garbage and love yourself like you deserve!

Do not GIVE yourself away! Simply allow your partner to experience the goddess of your being... SHARE your divine self! And...  you go girl!

Breaking the Gaze!

Please do this slowly and carefully. You may not be able to see it, but you have established an energy connection with this person. Do not thoughtlessly break this connection! If your partner is sensitive it can even hurt.

Begin by verbally agreeing that you will disconnect. Then slowly blink the eyes, once, twice... Then un-focus your gaze and feel yourself,  pull back yourself, ...into yourself.